Since my divorce I have been very cynical about this holiday. In my opinion it was just a holdiay created by card companies, flourist, and candy companies to remind those of us that are single how pathetic and lonely our lives are and how great it is to be in a relationship. To be honest even when I was married I never really bought into this day for I feel that if someone loves you it should be expressed throughout the year and not just on a holiday and buying all that stuff to say "I love you" was really a waste of money. Okay maybe I just bought into my exhusband's excuses for not celebrating the day even though his attitude has changed with is new wife.
I have since changed my mind on most of my cynicism about today and it was a card company that changed it. I was watching a Hallmark movie recently and the ad that caught my attention was about Valentine's Day. Basically the ad, if anyone has seen it, was about how today is not for saying "I love you" but "I love us!" Wow! That statement made me realize that is what I wanted to say to my friends and family that I love our relationship and Valentine's Day was a good day to do so. I try to tell my friends and family that I love them and how grateful I am to have them in my life and why not say that on a day marked for love.
I started calling those that special to me last night and today telling them just how much they mean to me. My daughter who is probably just as cynical as I am about this day for her own reasons has changed her mind somewhat also. She brought me flowers and a "Thank you" gift for helping her and being there for her and her baby, she picked today because she wanted to say how much she loves "us" also. She is 22. Surprise!She made me a home-made Valentine card-I will keep this one forever just like some of the other home-made cards and gifts the kids made in elementary school.
I guess today has new meaning to me from pne of being a day to spend money to tell your love one ( mainly a boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse) that you love them to telling anyone that is special to you that you love what they are to you in your life.
Take the time to tell all those in your life "I love US!" Hallmark I am sure won't mind.
Those Halmark movies always bring tears to my eyes with their sentimental messages. I appreciate the new phrase I have just added to this 'love day', I love us! Thank you. :)
ReplyDeleteMy exhusband didn't celebrate Valentine's day either, but I chose better the second time around. My husband bought me a store-made card, but it sounded like he wrote it. I will treasure it forever. It's always nice to know we are loved. :)
Yes it does seem like a silly holiday I agree and lots of people make lots of money and spend money on this day. They seem to think that its the only day to tell that special someone you love them when that's something you can do any day, week, month, or year you want.
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